Outcomes & Self-Worth…

After work, the race is on! I commute, I get home and the wild rumpus starts. Peel the potatoes get them into a pot, take out the pot roast I cooked on Sunday, wipe down the counters, and play the messages, throw my ice pack in the freezer, and dump the plastics in the sink. Load the dishwasher, schedule the car for service. All of a sudden it struck me as I was running around my kitchen, pulling dinner together, packing my food for tomorrow, scheduling the car for service, while keeping a close watch of the time because I knew I had to pick up my kids from work and the gym – I am such a mom.

Moms (and dads) get the job done! We do whatever it takes to keep the house going, kids cared for, cars on the road, and (literally) dinner on the table. However, there is an important part to my little story from today that shouldn’t be overlooked. I included my needs in the flurry of jobs that needed to get done. When I prioritize my needs I am setting myself up for a better outcome. If I elected to skip my needs this afternoon, tomorrow morning would have been so much harder. Or, I would have just skipped it all together and gotten some food on the fly that may not be plan friendly.

Maintaining my weight loss is very important to me. If I value that then I have to make time for it – even when it’s crazy busy. I hope you are doing the same thing. I hope you are carving out a little time to take care of you.

Yes, We Can…

I met my goal, I made to my yoga class after work. It was very challenging and there were quite a few positions I couldn’t do – yet. I am blown away when I see all these people who can stand effortlessly on one foot, and shift their balance with what seems to be great ease. Me on the other hand, I wobble and sway and I wonder how long it takes get decent at yoga! It’s ok though because I like practicing something I’m not that great at doing. It keeps me in touch with how my students must feel as they learn how to read and write.

I can celebrate that. so far, three days in to the new week I’m 3/3 with my activity goal. I do love goals, even when they aren’t met. I feel like I’m keeping myself hooked into the process with goal setting. Meeting my fitness goal for the day kind of set me up for what came next. I came home, and while dinner was cooking I prepped breakfast and lunch for tomorrow. Now I am on target to roll over four SmartPoints.

I can do this and so can you. Believe it.

Believe in Yourself…

I’m reflecting on my progress with goal setting. Last week was to focus on mindfulness and it was an up and down kind of week. There were some successes and some failures. I’m just trying to sort it out – trying to learn. So far all I really know for sure is that maintaining weight loss can be very hard some days.

Taking a page from the Gin Blossoms remembering 1996…

I’m feeling ok, I woke up with a headache and missed my weekly WW workshop and that’s a real bummer for me. I love going and touching base with my people. Part of being a WW member means you’ve got people, how cool is that? If you’re reading this post, you’re my people too, and I am yours – together we can think of ways to make this lifestyle thing work.

I am in week four of weekly goal setting. Here is how that’s looking:

  • Week 1: crash and burn setting a goal to rollover points did not work.
  • Week 2: huge success setting a goal to reinforce night time rituals was a big win for me.
  • Week 3: Fresh Start thinking (practice mindful choices) was up and down as I said earlier.

My goal this week is to get some activity each day. I feel better when I’m active. That helps me to stay focused on plan and to be successful. I went to the gym today, and walked the dog:

I hope you did something that makes you feel good today. Believe that you can do this, because you can. Keep the faith and keep it moving along.

Write Your Own Rules…

I don’t think I ever fully appreciated the phrase, “that was a lucky mistake” before. It’s been my experience that it’s just no fun to make mistakes. There are lots of negative feelings that accompany them, feelings like, shame, embarrassment, fear, and vulnerability. Do you think it’s possible to move past these negative feelings and feel grateful for the mistakes you’ve made? How would looking at mistakes through a lens of gratitude be beneficial? I wonder, does it always have to be that way? I’m starting to think it doesn’t have to be that way, I think I can write my own rules when it comes to mistakes. I want to be more generous with myself, I want to lean into being more reflective and honest. I want to use my mistakes as a stepping stone for growth.

This week’s goal to be mindful during bedtime rituals and making sure I get enough sleep is going so much better than last week’s goal to roll over SmartPoints. Now I know, nurturing goals are working better for me. For where I’m at, right now on the journey, focusing on taking care of myself is more helpful. I only know that because I made a mistake last week.

So I used 47 SmartPoints today. Crazy. You may be thinking, ok that’s the real reason she’s writing about mistakes… But here is a little history lesson about my family. One of our traditions is that we spend St. Patrick’s Day with my brother and his family. All us “kids” get together have a great time and part of that is sharing a delicious meal. No one is left out; there is no drama, just good times. WW is teaching me how to do that and still be successful on my weight loss journey.

In my past a 47 SmartPoint day might have derailed my entire week. That’s not going to happen this time, I have learned from that mistake. I now understand how to avoid that outcome. That’s growth, and that self-discovery and that is a very big deal. How’s it going? What mistakes have helped you to grow? My advise, don’t run from mistakes look at them as an opportunity to learn, I think it’s just better that way.

Goal Getters…

Goals provide some structure and help me get a sense of achievement. Since weight loss can be a slow process goals are the things that make me feel like I’m making progress. Goals are good and that’s the truth.

What happens when goals get away from me? I made goal setting my focus for this week and the truth is I wasn’t too successful. I can’t wait for my points to roll over and to start again. Stress was a major bummer this week and that had an impact. My goal was very numbers based – looking to rollover a range of points, focusing on losses on the scale – all of that didn’t help my frame of mind. So I have to really think about what I goal want to set for myself this next week. I want my goal to focus on self-care because I feel like I could use some TLC.

So many times when we see the word goals we see checks and lists and linear charts pointing skyward. The thing is a goal is not a linear path, it’s not a checklist. If a goal were easy it wouldn’t even be a goal it would be a task. Goals are meant to stretch us to grow. Growth is not easy, or fast. Growth involves making mistakes and reassessing, and trying again. Growth involves some pain alongside the glory. So even though I set some goals this week that didn’t come to fruition it doesn’t mean that I just give up, it means that I have more work to do and that I should try again. It means I need a new plan and it’s really important that I figure out why the first plan didn’t work. So cheers to trying again (with a new plan) and I hope this week I make it.

Goals, Refresh, Repeat…

Here is what I know about weight loss,

  • It’s not easy so don’t feel bad about failing
  • It’s not quick so don’t feel discouraged if it’s taking a long time
  • It’s not a one size fits all solution so do take some time to figure out what you need to be successful

You are worth the effort so keep trying.

Goals & Mindfulness…

Being mindful means becoming more aware within the moment of doing something. I’d like to work on that as part of my goals. I think being more aware of my internal and external experiences would help me on this weight loss journey. Becoming more present and mindful would deter overeating because overeating is an escape. Mindfulness is like the exact opposite trying to escape. This is just what I’m thinking about.

Got Goals…

March is one of those fickle months that fluctuates from wintry cold to warmer hints of spring. Today, is one of those rainy, grey, and icy cold March days. But I know that old man winter is shuffling around packing his bags and making his plans to move out to make way for the spring. Now is the time to think about what kind of spring and summer I want to experience.

As I am getting ready for a new week, I am thinking about what I can do to continue to grow. But before I can do that, I have to take stock of where I am right now. Although, I am still within my margins for Lifetime status I do want to lose about 3 pounds. My reasons for this is that my waist-to-hip ratio can still be improved. Click on the link if you want to read more about waist-to hip-ratio what it is, and why it’s important. For me, beginning the process for goal setting involves three steps…

  1. I want to reinforce the rituals that have been helping me to maintain my weight loss.
  2. I want to clearly name my intention by answering three questions: What goal do I want to develop? How how much time will I give myself? How will I monitor my progress?
  3. I want to think about what would come next, or what would be a reach goal that I might think about for the future.

So I need visuals and a way to engage and organize my thinking to help myself. Here is the work plan I created called, Got Goals? Planning Intentional Goals.

Click here if you want to use it for yourself:  Got goals? Planning Intentional Goals

As I go forward this week, I’m going to try to remind myself that I am taking this bit of time to help myself achieve my goals. I am going to try to honor this process and value it because I am worth the effort. If you decide to take this on, I hope you will do the same.

Friday Reflection…

In terms of my weight loss and maintenance goals it was a great week. I achieved my fitness goal: I went to spin class three times. In terms of food, I will rollover 35sp. today and I did not feel deprived or hungry. Plus, there are a few little moments that happened during the week that I can celebrate:

  • I was mindful about what I chose to snack on my ride home today. I went with a (very) small apple instead of a snack bag of chips.
  • Two days ago, I read my action plan that is hung on my refrigerator and that helped me to realize what was really going on – I wasn’t hungry I was stressed in a moment.
  • I reflected and worked on some strong emotions about a disappointing relationship

Well, it’s no wonder I’m so tired! Busy week, and a lot to deal with. I am just glad to be home on this cold March night and am looking forward to getting some good rest. I weigh in tomorrow and I think my efforts will be reflected on the scale, but even if they aren’t I had a great week.

Encouragement…

I’m thinking about the things I am grateful for as I get ready for bed. I can’t express enough how much it means to have a kind word of encouragement. Isn’t amazing that we all of have this enormous power for good within us? Of course belief starts from within, but it’s just so nice to have someone else come along and back you up.

Maybe that’s why I love teaching. I love being that voice that says, “Let’s try it.” or “Wow, look at what you’ve done here.” or “May I just give you a compliment?” My students all know that I believe in them. I think that understanding helps them to work so hard even when things are difficult. I think we could all take a lesson from the children in our lives. They know a thing or two about overcoming struggle and living joyfully.

Joy and struggle are two sides to the same coin, aren’t they? Today I pushed myself to get to spin at 4:30 pm and I did it. It was a struggle to make it out of school and to the gym on time. Usually, I let myself get caught up in work or a personal commitment. Not today! I feel really good about this. Plus, I am also rolling over 4 SmartPoints which also feels pretty fantastic.

I think dreams are just as important as reality. Having a dream to strive towards, is helping me to discover how much I can really do. I’m just so grateful I am figuring this out. I could have lived my whole life and never have known what I could become had it not been for my dreams.

If you have something you are dreaming of – keep it safe, keep it close to your heart. If you have someone in your life who has a big dream – be an encourager. Be the one who says, “Yes, you can do it.” The truth is, you can do it – whatever “it” might be. It just takes a lot of work and dedication. I guess the one question you have to ask yourself is, are you willing to put in the time it takes to make a dream happen?

Be the light, be the hope, keep the faith.