It’s funny how a song can bring you back in time. I was watching the movie, Crazy Rich Asians, and heard a beautiful version of Only Fools Rush In. My uncle, Big Frankie, sang, that same song at my wedding. I remembered all the family and friends who were there to celebrate with us. It’s a very special memory.
You might be thinking, “Ok, so? Isn’t this a wellness and weight loss blog?” It is. Weight loss can be transformative experience. While it changes how I live my life, inside I am still me. I think, in order to stay on this journey, I need to gather everything I am, all I was, and all I hope to be and use that so I keep going. I need to embrace it all if I want to hold onto the best version of me.
So as you do the work to reach your goals, why not turn your gaze to something sweet? It is especially important to remember how much love there is in life. So this is what I have to say to you, remember the love, just remember that. Hold onto that and know you are worthy of accomplishing your goals. Even when you fail, or slip up, or have days that don’t go as planned. You can do it, you’ll get there. Say that and believe it.
I decided I’m going to keep counting days until I get back to goal. I did lose a pound this week, and that is very welcome news. I worked to recapture a beginner’s mind this week. Giving up dessert was a good way to get in touch with those feelings. Insofar as my mindset, gratitude is the word of the day. It’s easy to feel grateful when things are going good isn’t it? However, while it’s always good to be grateful, it’s even more important when times are tough. It is also easy to be grateful for the big things, like my children, my husband, my family, and my friends. I am deeply grateful – they are all the most important people in the world to me, I am so blessed to have these remarkable people in my life. Sometimes, it is important to recognize the less obvious sources that make me feel grateful. These are three small things I’m grateful for:
the way the sun comes through my dining room windows.
living in a small town close to the water.
being able to have this time to reflect and write.
So, yes I am grateful for the biggest blessings but I also don’t want forget the small ones too. I realize that to someone reading this post, it may sound strange to write about gratitude here (since this is a blog about weight loss and maintaining weight loss) but I guess the thing is anything that is difficult to do requires a lot of energy. Energy that comes from gratitude is better than energy that comes from struggle. I aspire to keep a grateful heart no matter what comes my way.
You are worth all the effort maintaining weight loss takes. It is ok to take time to plan, to weigh and measure foods, to focus on you and what is important to you. The stronger you are, the better you can take care of yourself and everyone else that relies on you.
In times of stress and worry it’s easy to put your needs on the back burner. Try not to do that, because you are important too. Treat yourself as you would someone who you really love. Self-love is not selfish – it is kindness turned inward. You can do this and just remember how remarkable you are.
This note is for me, and you. Weight loss is a difficult thing, maintaining it is also difficult, so remember that if you get down on yourself. You are doing something difficult but it’s something you are doing just for yourself.
Under an onyx sky the wind is a prankster swirling around the house restless and full of errant energy. It jostles the wind chimes that hang from the eves of the garage. Undulating clanging that is sometimes loud kicking up a big fuss and then muted and remote as they falls quiet. My mind whispers back, “I hope I never forget to appreciate the mystery of the world.”
Noticing the beauty in the everyday is a surprise gift I have rediscovered on my weight loss journey. The more I look for beauty in the world, the more I find it. Finding beauty helps in so many ways because it fills me up and gives me strength to keep going. The more I find it in the world the more I find it within myself. There is no other person like me, or you. That has value and worth and that is something important to remember.
Loraine had an aha moment of clarity about how to change up her snacking!
Pam hit a mile stone and lost 25 pounds!
Jackie measured out her wine and realized that it was more than a serving and is now drinking it out of a smaller wine glass!
Angela hit goal
Rich is making huge progress as he is training for a half challenge at Walt Disney World January 2020. He walked 15 miles before our meeting!
Look at what people can do when they have a growth mindset. A growth mindset means that we come into a process looking for challenges, knowing that there will be some hard work ahead. In taking this stance you begin to look at failures as a chance to grow rather than a label to define. What a hopeful way to view our lives, and what a great group of people to spend my Saturday mornings with, people who are out there meeting the struggle for a healthy lifestyle and who are digging in and doing the work to make it a reality. They are the kinds of people I want to be with and I am so grateful.
New Week, New Goal
We had a thoughtful conversation about why we get stuck along the way. Our take was that it was a combination of over doing it with the zero point foods combined with the indulgences. The indulgences are the snacks, wine, and other higher point value foods. For me, I do not over indulge with my zero point foods because I weigh, track, and measure.
I think I need to mix it up when it comes to indulgences. I want to make a list and try to be strategic. This is what I’m thinking, list all the foods I want to eat, and drink that have points, and then mix and match as this week goes. For example, 5 ounces of wine with grapes one day. Peanut butter and celery another day. Pistachios and blueberries and pomegranate seeds another day. When I eat these things eat them very mindfully and in a pleasant setting. I’ll put my list up on my Tips & Tools page if you’re interested in checking it out.
So I maintained my weight loss and am still sitting in my “free seat” that is an amazing feeling coming into a new season. I hope you are happy wherever you are in this journey. Keep positive and be reflective it helps.
I met my weekly goal to get some activity each day. It wasn’t some crazy workout routine for me – it was to walk my dog. The sun was out the weather was mild and we both enjoyed it a lot….
On the downside I said yes to eating a Carvelite Small Cup and that was 14 SmartPoints. So, I’m over today. But isn’t the point of this journey to learn how to live and eat the things I want? I’m learning how to be more moderate and those lessons only come with these kinds of experiences.
I hope you are saying “Yes!” to the things you really want. I hope you are experiencing the power of saying “No.” and sticking with it because that feels pretty awesome too.
After work, the race is on! I commute, I get home and the wild rumpus starts. Peel the potatoes get them into a pot, take out the pot roast I cooked on Sunday, wipe down the counters, and play the messages, throw my ice pack in the freezer, and dump the plastics in the sink. Load the dishwasher, schedule the car for service. All of a sudden it struck me as I was running around my kitchen, pulling dinner together, packing my food for tomorrow, scheduling the car for service, while keeping a close watch of the time because I knew I had to pick up my kids from work and the gym – I am such a mom.
Moms (and dads) get the job done! We do whatever it takes to keep the house going, kids cared for, cars on the road, and (literally) dinner on the table. However, there is an important part to my little story from today that shouldn’t be overlooked. I included my needs in the flurry of jobs that needed to get done. When I prioritize my needs I am setting myself up for a better outcome. If I elected to skip my needs this afternoon, tomorrow morning would have been so much harder. Or, I would have just skipped it all together and gotten some food on the fly that may not be plan friendly.
Maintaining my weight loss is very important to me. If I value that then I have to make time for it – even when it’s crazy busy. I hope you are doing the same thing. I hope you are carving out a little time to take care of you.
I met my goal, I made to my yoga class after work. It was very challenging and there were quite a few positions I couldn’t do – yet. I am blown away when I see all these people who can stand effortlessly on one foot, and shift their balance with what seems to be great ease. Me on the other hand, I wobble and sway and I wonder how long it takes get decent at yoga! It’s ok though because I like practicing something I’m not that great at doing. It keeps me in touch with how my students must feel as they learn how to read and write.
I can celebrate that. so far, three days in to the new week I’m 3/3 with my activity goal. I do love goals, even when they aren’t met. I feel like I’m keeping myself hooked into the process with goal setting. Meeting my fitness goal for the day kind of set me up for what came next. I came home, and while dinner was cooking I prepped breakfast and lunch for tomorrow. Now I am on target to roll over four SmartPoints.
I’m reflecting on my progress with goal setting. Last week was to focus on mindfulness and it was an up and down kind of week. There were some successes and some failures. I’m just trying to sort it out – trying to learn. So far all I really know for sure is that maintaining weight loss can be very hard some days.
I’m feeling ok, I woke up with a headache and missed my weekly WW workshop and that’s a real bummer for me. I love going and touching base with my people. Part of being a WW member means you’ve got people, how cool is that? If you’re reading this post, you’re my people too, and I am yours – together we can think of ways to make this lifestyle thing work.
I am in week four of weekly goal setting. Here is how that’s looking:
Week 1: crash and burn setting a goal to rollover points did not work.
Week 2: huge success setting a goal to reinforce night time rituals was a big win for me.
Week 3: Fresh Start thinking (practice mindful choices) was up and down as I said earlier.
My goal this week is to get some activity each day. I feel better when I’m active. That helps me to stay focused on plan and to be successful. I went to the gym today, and walked the dog:
I hope you did something that makes you feel good today. Believe that you can do this, because you can. Keep the faith and keep it moving along.
I don’t think I ever fully appreciated the phrase, “that was a lucky mistake” before. It’s been my experience that it’s just no fun to make mistakes. There are lots of negative feelings that accompany them, feelings like, shame, embarrassment, fear, and vulnerability. Do you think it’s possible to move past these negative feelings and feel grateful for the mistakes you’ve made? How would looking at mistakes through a lens of gratitude be beneficial? I wonder, does it always have to be that way? I’m starting to think it doesn’t have to be that way, I think I can write my own rules when it comes to mistakes. I want to be more generous with myself, I want to lean into being more reflective and honest. I want to use my mistakes as a stepping stone for growth.
This week’s goal to be mindful during bedtime rituals and making sure I get enough sleep is going so much better than last week’s goal to roll over SmartPoints. Now I know, nurturing goals are working better for me. For where I’m at, right now on the journey, focusing on taking care of myself is more helpful. I only know that because I made a mistake last week.
So I used 47 SmartPoints today. Crazy. You may be thinking, ok that’s the real reason she’s writing about mistakes… But here is a little history lesson about my family. One of our traditions is that we spend St. Patrick’s Day with my brother and his family. All us “kids” get together have a great time and part of that is sharing a delicious meal. No one is left out; there is no drama, just good times. WW is teaching me how to do that and still be successful on my weight loss journey.
In my past a 47 SmartPoint day might have derailed my entire week. That’s not going to happen this time, I have learned from that mistake. I now understand how to avoid that outcome. That’s growth, and that self-discovery and that is a very big deal. How’s it going? What mistakes have helped you to grow? My advise, don’t run from mistakes look at them as an opportunity to learn, I think it’s just better that way.