Write Your Own Rules…

I don’t think I ever fully appreciated the phrase, “that was a lucky mistake” before. It’s been my experience that it’s just no fun to make mistakes. There are lots of negative feelings that accompany them, feelings like, shame, embarrassment, fear, and vulnerability. Do you think it’s possible to move past these negative feelings and feel grateful for the mistakes you’ve made? How would looking at mistakes through a lens of gratitude be beneficial? I wonder, does it always have to be that way? I’m starting to think it doesn’t have to be that way, I think I can write my own rules when it comes to mistakes. I want to be more generous with myself, I want to lean into being more reflective and honest. I want to use my mistakes as a stepping stone for growth.

This week’s goal to be mindful during bedtime rituals and making sure I get enough sleep is going so much better than last week’s goal to roll over SmartPoints. Now I know, nurturing goals are working better for me. For where I’m at, right now on the journey, focusing on taking care of myself is more helpful. I only know that because I made a mistake last week.

So I used 47 SmartPoints today. Crazy. You may be thinking, ok that’s the real reason she’s writing about mistakes… But here is a little history lesson about my family. One of our traditions is that we spend St. Patrick’s Day with my brother and his family. All us “kids” get together have a great time and part of that is sharing a delicious meal. No one is left out; there is no drama, just good times. WW is teaching me how to do that and still be successful on my weight loss journey.

In my past a 47 SmartPoint day might have derailed my entire week. That’s not going to happen this time, I have learned from that mistake. I now understand how to avoid that outcome. That’s growth, and that self-discovery and that is a very big deal. How’s it going? What mistakes have helped you to grow? My advise, don’t run from mistakes look at them as an opportunity to learn, I think it’s just better that way.

Creativity…

I read this book, Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert, a while back. It was an interesting read that attempted to explain the nature of creativity. I’ve been thinking about what it takes to live a creative life.

There are all kinds of ways to be creative but all of them stem back to some kind of vision of what you want to do or to share or to be or to contribute. In some ways, I think about my weight loss journey as a testimony to my creative spirit. I have created a new reality for myself. I imagined what I wanted and began setting goals to bring it to fruition.

I guess my message to you is to do all that you can to be your most authentic self. Indulge your inner creativity and work on something that will bring you joy. More tomorrow.

21st Century Life

“There are so many people who want you to succeed. Believe me. Most of us already know that weight loss can be a difficult proposition, it takes time and effort. What some of us may not know? There are lots of and lots of people who will take the journey with you.  Step out of your comfort zone and embrace the process with an open mind and heart. If you travel this path with others you will be one of many leaders who will be a source of inspiration and support. You definitely don’t have to do this all by yourself.” This is my message today.

We live in a connected world. Technology offers so many ways to access each others’ lives. With a click on the trackpad, I can see family dinner at my cousin’s house in Florida, keep up with the latest news from colleagues in Washington, and follow my daring friend’s adventures in Hawaii. Then travel back home again to storytime with a friend’s grandchild. All of that leaves me feeling happy to know these things are happening in the world.

I felt this way a couple of times this week. My results? I lost 1.4 pounds this week. Woo Hoo!

Yet there is also an underside to 21st Century life. According to the Kaiser Family Foundation (KFF)  one in five (22%) Americans say that technology leaves them feeling isolated, lonely, or anxious.  I think that may be because we find ourselves on the outside looking into each other’s lives rather than being present in them. Being present and being an active learner is something that my #WW community  truly lives by example. 

Saturday Morning #WW Leaders Inspire Me

Being a member of WW who also attends meetings is a powerful thing. This organization continues to evolve and become something really special at a time when many of us crave a community. I love being a part of something bigger than myself, and today we all said, “Yes” to sharing our experiences. We did so as we celebrated each other’s success.

  • Lauren hit goal! She is going to be in the body she wanted in time for her wedding and is committed to making a permanent lifestyle change. Her story fills me with happiness.
  • Kim decided to make a change in her life, she said “I need to make a change. The time is now.” This week she lost 5 pounds, This is living your life with a sense of agency.
  • Erin is making intentional choices and says her success is 100% due to a mind shift. She lost 30 pounds as part of the virtual WW community and when she saw the weight coming back, she decided to start attending meetings. Bravo, Erin.
  • Betty lost 5 pounds and is learning how to navigate food choices during work. This is huge! This is empowerment.
  • Joanne lost 7 pounds in one week! Amazing. She is learning to say, “No.” and is taking care of herself. This is a life-changing reflection and it sends shivers down my spine.
  • Emily shared some real reflections on her week that were profound. She didn’t just keep doing what she’s done in the past to be successful she is being a responsive problem solver who refuses to get stuck. She shared her perspective that real change is all about mindset.

By now, it’s probably obvious why I am such a fan of #WW. I am not alone. I am part of this dynamic group and all I really want for anyone reading this blog is for you to feel included.

7 sp but worth every bite. Egg, Canadian Bacon, and Avocado Wrap 7 sp. 1/2 cup Fage Non-fat Yogurt with mixed berries 0sp

A word about my Featured Image.

Everything you see here was a gift from one of my WW friends. I am filled with gratitude, I am embarrassed to say that sometimes I forget how fortunate I am. Thank you.

Yes, we are learning about portion sizes, and healthy eating and activity. Yes, we are learning about the growth mindset and mindfulness. But more than that, we are letting each other into our lives because we want to make a change for ourselves and for each other. Take good care on the journey as we get ready for a new week ahead. Know that you can be part of something bigger than yourself, if only you say, “Yes.”

Authentic…

This was a good week. I went outside of my healthy eating zone earlier in the week and by the end of the week I was back on track rolling over points. I found ways to get my activity in. My meals were packed each day, tracked, and measured. These are all very good things to be happy about.

I think I need to work on going to bed earlier. The mornings have been rough, it has been hard getting up and out of my warm bed on these extremely cold days. So sticking toa bedtime routine would probably be very helpful.

So the journey goes, this is what Maintenance looks like for now.

Refocus…

There is a reason that so much attention has been given to knowing your “why.” Simon Sinek began the conversation around the significance of “why” by giving us a framework called the Golden Circle.

This framework can be applied to all of us as individuals too.

Now, is a good time to revisit my “why”. I want to reflect on my actions and thoughts in an effort to be more self-aware. In order to do this work, I think it’s important to really know myself as a learner. After all, I am learning how to live my life as a healthier version of myself. I am asking: What does it take to do this? How am I going to get that done? Why is it so important to me?

  • What: I will stay engaged with #WW by following the plan as it is intended to be followed. I will participate in activities that I love doing like spin and yoga.
  • How: I am the kind of person to engages her learning intellectually and emotionally. Writing is an outlet for both. Writing helps me to stay intellectually emotionally engaged on this journey.
  • Why: I want to bring back vitality to my life.

If I were going to turn this blog into a book the title would be: 

Reimagining and Revising

My Transformative Journey to Better Health & Wellness (and yes, Weight Loss)

My story is not a one size fits all series of steps that would deliver health and wellness in a box to readers. There is no just follow the recipe and “Voila!” all your dreams will come true. Instead, my story is one that would teach readers the value and joy of self-discovery. That combined with the understanding that the most important day will always be – today.

I am learning that the more present I am in my life the more successful I am and the better I feel. Even if this day is not a successful day on plan – there is always that next choice to make. I have always been in love with the underdog, and nothing motivates me more than a comeback. Knowing that I can do this and still embrace optimism (because that’s who I am. I am an optimist) makes all the difference.

You might be thinking, “Well that’s all well and good for you. I don’t consider myself an optimist. I’m a realist.” To that, I would say, “Great. Use that to define your reality and work back from there.” Maybe my past failures with weight loss and my current success all boil down to a failed analogy. For so many years I was searching to find the key to unlock my potential. Now I know, I had it all wrong.

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It’s not about finding some arcane key to some unmovable padlock. That makes my future left to chance – some esoteric thing working to keep me apart from my dreams – my goals. What if instead, of a padlock it was a combination lock? Now beginning with understanding how my lock works become essential. My key is about knowing my combination of strengths because that is how I will open me up for success. For me, Optimism, Perseverance, Kindness, and Reflection are my winning combinations.

It’s a beautiful thing, you are the lock, and you already have the key. Something to think about.

Influence…

I am thinking about what influences me. As I reflect on my interactions with my family and friends, the books that I read, my colleagues at work, and all the media I consume all have an impact. The decisions I make influence me also. Every choice leads in towards or away from success:

  • Do I pre-pack and track my meals for the next day the night before?
  • Do I go to bed early so I can make a spin class in the morning?
  • Do I stay up later and keep working?
  • Did I plan what we will have for dinner?
  • Do I have dessert tonight?

It’s all the little choices that have a big influence on the direction I take. So I plan on celebrating every choice I make that will render a positive influence. Tomorrow is weigh-in day, and of course, I am more than a number on the scale! However, I also believe the number is feedback on how I am doing.

I blog the truth. The truth is I really hope I make it within my two-pound range tomorrow. I will have 39 roll over points at the close of this week. That’s amazing. I made my fitness goal. That’s amazing! I included a variety of foods and made smart choices that left me feeling satisfied and not deprived. That’s amazing! I even took time to get a manicure on the way home from work today because I wanted to do something nice for myself. That’s amazing too!

If I don’t make it. I will be disappointed but I will not be deterred. I will keep working and doing my best. Right now, I’d love it if you promised to do the same. In my mind, I imagine that you say, “I will too!” We can do this, let’s go.

Appreciative…

I read a blog post that made me think today, Running 4Meyer called Baby Steps Are Boring. It made me think about all the little things I have done to set up the strong habits that are helping me today.

Beginnings are hard because there are not any results yet – just the hope it will work. Hope is essential to the process of weight loss but so is discipline. Saying “No thank you…” to tempting foods (especially when I’m stressed) is not so easy. It has a lot to do with my “baby steps” that laid the foundation I rely on to make weight loss happen.

I say, celebrate it all. Celebrate the crawling it takes before you take that first step! Today I am rolling over 4 SmartPoints. Woo Hoo! I did not get into spin class for 5;15 am. I was Waitlisted so I withdrew my name. I’m going to try to go after work. I’m not sure if I can pull that off but I’m going to try. Step-by-step I can do this and so can you.

Brisk…

Busy, busy, busy. Today moved along at a brisk pace. A lot of things came together and jived from morning till now:

  • I made spin class at 5:15 am. There were three people there waiting to get in – isn’t that amazing? So many people are so dedicated to their health goals. This is very inspiring to me.
  • Work moved along well and I felt productive and good about what I was able to complete.
  • Dinner went over well, 9sp chicken with pasta and tomatoes. Everyone seemed to enjoy it. Plus, I am in the Blue Dot zone, that always feels good.

I am doing some great work keeping my goals in the forefront. I am working out, tracking, eating mindfully. I am prepping my foods and trying some new recipes. These are all choices I am making to help myself. What have you been doing for yourself lately?

In case you’re wondering about my featured image… it is Brooklyn, New York. At the end of the month, I’ll be going to school there for training. I’m nervous about it because it’s something I’ve never done before. I am working on a plan for how to handle it. Right now, I just feel a little queasy about the whole thing. Anyway – Brooklyn, I’ll see you soon.

Self-Care…

Self-care means sitting on my loveseat and writing this post. It means spending some time with my kids and just talking. Self-care is part of my journey because it is kindness turned inward. Do you believe in self-care? What are you doing to take care of YOU?

I weighed and measured all my foods for dinner. I have used a total of 23 sp today and I feel pretty good. My only regret was that I had to cancel my spin reservation for 5:15 am. Working late really impacts my ability to go. I’m not giving up. I’m going to try for Thursday.

I’m so grateful I’m learning how to maintain my weight loss. I feel so much better physically and I am more confident. Weight loss hasn’t solved all my problems, but it has helped me to feel better about myself. Better, because this was something I wanted to change and I did. Thank you for taking time to read my little blog. I appreciate your support.

Stress…

Worries followed me like my shadow today. Plus, I was very unlucky and lost my seat at the 5:15 am spin class. I left my breakfast and lunch home. On top of that, I dealt with some difficult conversations at work, and then I ended up staying late to help manage a situation after school. It was a stressful day.


On the other hand, my husband took the 40 minute ride dropped off my food at school. What a guy. I had a great day coaching and teaching. I was there or my colleagues when they needed me. Even if I can’t please everyone I am still worthy and good. I am enough.